Nonviolent Communication Disc 1 (Size: 566.14 MB) (Files: 36)
Nonviolent Communication Disc 1
02 The Origins of Nonviolent Communication.mp3
03 Living in Harmony With Our Values.mp3
04 Applications of Nonviolent Communication.mp3
05 Communication Without Judgment.mp3
06 Life-Alienating Communication.mp3
07 Observation Without Evaluation.mp3
08 Expressing Our Feelings.mp3
09 The Difference Between Feelings and Thoughts.mp3
Nonviolent Communication Disc 2
02 Taking Responsibility for Our Feelings.mp3
03 Learning a Language of Needs.mp3
04 Relating to the Needs of Others.mp3
05 Needs Are Life in Action.mp3
06 How Requests Can Be Gifts.mp3
07 Requesting Concrete Actions of Others.mp3
08 Creating the Connection We Want.mp3
09 The Differece Between Requests and Demands.mp3
Nonviolent Communication Disc 3
02 Connecting Empathically With Others.mp3
03 Defusing Violence With Empathy.mp3
04 Conversation and Silence.mp3
05 The Healing Power of Empathy.mp3
06 From Self-Judgement to Self-Forgiveness.mp3
07 The Energy Behind Our Actions.mp3
08 The Protective Use of Force.mp3
09 The Limitations of Punishment and Reward.mp3
Nonviolent Communication Disc 4
02 Learning to Express Anger Fully.mp3
03 The Cause of Anger.mp3
04 The Difference Between Cause and Stimulus.mp3
05 Techniques for Expressing Anger.mp3
06 Learning to Express Our Needs.mp3
07 Nonviolent Communication and Psychotherapy.mp3
08 Celebrating Life Through Gratitude.mp3
09 Receiving Gratitude.mp3
Nonviolent Communication (NVC) is sometimes referred to as compassionate communication. Its purpose is to:
1. create human connections that empower compassionate giving and receiving
2. create governmental and corporate structures that support compassionate giving and receiving.
NVC involves both communication skills that foster compassionate relating and consciousness of the interdependence of our well being and using power with others to work together to meet the needs of all concerned.
This approach to communication emphasizes compassion as the motivation for action rather than fear, guilt, shame, blame, coercion, threat or justification for punishment. In other words, it is about getting what you want for reasons you will not regret later. NVC is NOT about getting people to do what we want. It is about creating a quality of connection that gets everyone’s needs met through compassionate giving.
The process of NVC encourages us to focus on what we and others are observing separate from our interpretations and judgments, to connect our thoughts and feelings to underlying human needs/values (e.g. protection, support, love), and to be clear about what we would like towards meeting those needs. These skills give the ability to translate from a language of criticism, blame, and demand into a language of human needs -- a language of life that consciously connects us to the universal qualities “alive in us” that sustain and enrich our well being, and focuses our attention on what actions we could take to manifest these qualities.
Nonviolent Communication skills will assist you in dealing with major blocks to communication such as demands, diagnoses and blaming. In CNVC trainings you will learn to express yourself honestly without attacking. This will help minimize the likelihood of facing defensive reactions in others. The skills will help you make clear requests. They will help you receive critical and hostile messages without taking them personally, giving in, or losing self-esteem. These skills are useful with family, friends, students, subordinates, supervisors, co-workers and clients, as well as with your own internal dialogues.
Nonviolent Communication Skills
NVC offers practical, concrete skills for manifesting the purpose of creating connections of compassionate giving and receiving based in a consciousness of interdependence and power with others. These skills include:
1. Differentiating observation from evaluation, being able to carefully observe what is happening free of evaluation, and to specify behaviors and conditions that are affecting us;
2. Differentiating feeling from thinking, being able to identify and express internal feeling states in a way that does not imply judgment, criticism, or blame/punishment;
3. Connecting with the universal human needs/values (e.g. sustenance, trust, understanding) in us that are being met or not met in relation to what is happening and how we are feeling; and
4. Requesting what we would like in a way that clearly and specifically states what we do want (rather than what we don’t want), and that is truly a request and not a demand (i.e. attempting to motivate, however subtly, out of fear, guilt, shame, obligation, etc. rather than out of willingness and compassionate giving).
These skills emphasize personal responsibility for our actions and the choices we make when we respond to others, as well as how to contribute to relationships based in cooperation and collaboration.
With NVC we learn to hear our own deeper needs and those of others, and to identify and clearly articulate what “is alive in us”. When we focus on clarifying what is being observed, felt, needed, and wanted, rather than on diagnosing and judging, we discover the depth of our own compassion. Through its emphasis on deep listening—to ourselves as well as others—NVC fosters respect, attentiveness and empathy, and engenders a mutual desire to give from the heart. The form is simple, yet powerfully transformative.
Founded on consciousness, language, communication skills, and use of power that enable us to remain human, even under trying conditions, Nonviolent Communication contains nothing new: all that has been integrated into NVC has been known for centuries. The intent is to remind us about what we already know—about how we humans were meant to relate to one another—and to assist us in living in a way that concretely manifests this knowledge.
The use of NVC does not require that the persons with whom we are communicating be literate in NVC or even motivated to relate to us compassionately. If we stay with the principles of NVC, with the sole intention to give and receive compassionately, and do everything we can to let others know this is our only motive, they will join us in the process and eventually we will be able to respond compassionately to one another. While this may not happen quickly, it is our experience that compassion inevitably blossoms when we stay true to the principles and process of Nonviolent Communication.
NVC is a clear and effective model for communicating in a way that is cooperative conscious, and compassionate.